"A certain classic film starring Meg Ryan and Billy Crystal convinced a nation of moviegoers that sex always comes between men and women, making true friendship impossible."
There is only one socially approved way around this rule: Straight ladies can be friends with gay boys. But beware, het ladies! Those gay boys may only be pretending to be gay in order to grease the path into your pants! The jury's still out on whether straight boys can be friends with gay ladies, and I'm pretty sure no one's allowed to be friends with bisexual people (unless that person is Rickie), since they can't really be trusted with either gender.
commiserating about their boyfriends' foibles; men watch sports, drink beer, and complain about their girlfriends.
Should we create rosters and categories? Choose from List A if you're in the mood for stein-clinking and rugby-watching, from List B if you need a manicure and a trip to Bloomie's. But what if you just want to have a potluck? What list do you invite then?
It's hard enough to build long-lasting friendships in the adult world without all these stupid rules about cross-sex relationships and how they're supposed to work. In a perfect world, people would just relate to each other as people, not as genders or sexual orientations or Democrats or Republicans or whatever.
Tell me, readers, who are your best friends, and what does your social circle look like? Are they homogeneous or heterogeneous in their gender and sexual orientation? What about race, class, national origin? What are the challenges you see in relating to people that are unlike yourself?
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